In society driven by celebutante news and My-Space profiles, women of class, style, and charm are hard to come by. As the Audreys and Katharines of the world continue to lose their luster...is it possible to maintain traditional virtues in a modern world?
The challenge of appropriate attire is in realizing that what a person wears conveys who they are and what they believe is important. Relationships are not based on outward appearances. However, this does not mean we can dismiss the importance of suitable dress.
Sweatpants may be the most comfortable clothing to hang out in, but that does not make it acceptable for wearing in public. “Today, [slouching] describes an interesting fashion style where oversized clothes hang off the body as if the wearer inexplicably lost twenty or thirty pounds between the time he finished dressing and the moment he showed up in public.”As Nancy Wilson said, we wear clothing not for our ease, but by actively pursuing virtue, we should make the people around us comfortable. This means considering who we are interacting with and how we can best demonstrate our thoughtfulness towards them. Once this has been established, the next obstacle is simply learning what it means to dress well. Christian Dior stated, “there is no fashion which is good without care, enthusiasm, and zest behind it. Zest in designing..zest in making...zest in wearing your clothes.” Mediocre societal norms are challenged in an organized survey of monumental depth concerning fashions, modesty, and assumptions which are associated with given trends. The Harris brothers, along with many other Christian authors, challenge women to synthesize their godly disciplines and dress standards.
Christian women should not wear saggy-baggy, skin-tight, low-cut, comfy-cozy clothing in public. We should not dress for ourselves but rather, dress in such a way as to make our brothers and sisters comfortable. Personal ease is not what it is all about. On the contrary, we should demonstrate honor, respect, and humility in our clothing. The world has a powerful charm and Christian women must be wary of its deadening effects. It can be tempting to adopt the clothing the culture deems appropriate, but we must keep our eyes off our selfish desires and look to edify others. Frumpiness does not only refer to the people in saran-wrapped jeans and plunging necklines, but also includes some “high fashion (see figure 1).” In fact, many of today’s popular trends are just as frumpy.
Christian demeanor in dress is relevant in every woman’s life. Thomas Brooks aptly said: “Certainly such as fear the Lord should go in no apparel but first, such as they are willing to die in; secondly, to appear before the Ancient of Days in; thirdly, to stand before the judgement seat in.” The Bible is full of examples of people wearing noteworthy clothing and taking pride in dressing well. Beautiful, modest, embroidered and fine apparel, garments of praise, and choice clothes are all explicitly mentioned in Scripture. Dressing well is a matter of learning how to distinguish between frumpiness (see figure 2) and true class (see figure 3). Every situation we encounter requires a certain type of clothing: a backyard BBQ is casual, whereas dinner at an expensive restaurant is much dressier. Only after such a contrast has been made will we begin to raise the culturally accepted subpar standard of dowdy fashion.
One of the biggest pitfalls of modern fashion is the misleading assumption that women can wear whatever they want wherever they go. Because people make judgements based on what we look like, and Christians are supposed to be representing God, we cannot disregard clothing. Sloppiness is not style; it is not cool, hip, or chic. Self-expressive style dismisses the authority high standards of fashion used to invoke. Excuses about dressing modestly and cramping personal style are plentiful.
If we are smart, sophisticated, and chic, our attire will most likely reflect those attributes. On the flip side, all of our rude, grungy, and vile traits can be portrayed through our duds, as well. It’s no secret that girls with self-image problems often dress to compensate for the pieces that are missing in their lives...our level of self-respect shows up in a number of different areas, and fashion, dress, and personal style happen to be some of the biggest and most obvious ones.
Walking the line is dangerous. When an authority give you a guideline, it is unwise to sink to the lowest end of the spectrum and get away with the least acceptable clothing possible. Rise to the challenge and impress them with your posh and tasteful style.
Wearing comfy clothes is completely appropriate--until you step out the door. In our casual society, women have ceased to care about their appearance. No matter how often people say you should not judge based on appearances, it always happens, “we make entire character verdicts based on the absence or presence of ratty tennis shoes, designer jackets, ill-fitting pants, or leather bags...”
When you go out in public, remember that your appearance says a lot about you and the God whom you serve; take time to present yourself well, change those shabbily-frayed jeans for a vogue knit dress and pearls, look in the mirror and touch up your make-up.
Fashion does not have to be immodest, expensive, or frumpy--simply attractive (see figure 4). Striving after truth, beauty, and goodness, we as Christian women should be concerned with what we look like and how we represent our families and God. However, it is also important not to let go of the double-fold vision of also having an inner purity which shines through the outward mien. By all means, wear your baggy sweatpants around the house, but when it’s time to leave, kick off the slippers at the door and step into the world, knowing you are a lovely, counter-cultural Christian woman.
Figure 4. Above left, Maren; above middle, Helen; above right, Julie. Photography by Lisa Warninger.
1 comment:
Love it, Caity! Well said. (I couldn't see any pictures, though...)
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